Maybe you have had this problem while working on your inner self or while trying to solve a little problem that you can’t seem to change or haven’t figured out how to change?
I’ve read books and listened to different people but I get these conflicting answers like, accept what is and change what is (if you don’t like it). Well damn it! WHICH IS IT?!
I didn’t think I had a whole lot of luck accepting things as they are, for example, my own thoughts. My thoughts have been determined by my experiences and my thoughts were out of control. I tried accepting and dealing with them but it didn’t get much better or any easier over a period of years.
More recently, I have begun to recognize the thoughts and memories that begin to give me grief and anxiety. So now what? I have recognized them, now what the hell do I do with them? I can’t make peace with them so I am doing the only thing I can do…..avoid them!
No matter how hard as I tried to avoid them, the thought would grow deep roots and would refuse to fall back into the forgotten parts of my mind.
Avoiding or blocking the thoughts seemed to be the wrong technique so I decided to try another approach. I tried to replace the thought with a better one. Well that must have been the trick because it’s been working!
They say practice makes perfect and in this case they would be correct. The thoughts come in, are recognized and they are replaced by a better thought faster than the time before. The more I make a conscious effort to focus on the good the easier it seems to get.
Rather than avoiding them I am conditioning myself to focus on what is now, what is the present. So the phrase, Live in the Present, was the key and come to think of it, I actually am accepting what is because right now my life is pretty good and the past is what holds the bad thoughts. God I hope that makes some kind of sense!